Each of us is a mixture of being and becoming. “Becoming” is expected of children and adolescents as they figure out who they are and will be in the world. “Being” is expected of adults, who supposedly have answered all the questions of their identity and are ready to “settle”. Too much “being” in a child and too much “becoming” in an adult are frequently seen as a crisis by the collective because they mess with the order of how things are supposed to be.
It is possible to support individuals in a life-long process of “becoming” without assuming it will lead to anarchy and social collapse.
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