There is a Chinese proverb that says one cannot make rice plants grow faster by pulling on their tops.
Human growth usually starts inside and moves outward (through reflection on experience, goal setting, etc.) Growth can also legitimately begin on the outside and move in (through mimicry, the modelling of others, externally-imposed structure, etc). In both cases, whatever new piece is added is not free-floating. It builds on whatever is already present.
Personal growth – our own and that of others – can be encouraged, supported, nourished; but it cannot be rushed.
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