The reason why it is very hard to argue someone out of a belief is that arguments (reasons) and beliefs originate in different thinking systems. In other words, our beliefs do not come from where we think they come from.
Beliefs are often rooted in System One and result from our upbringing, who we trusted and what they believed, how we feel about certain things, etc. The reasons we give for believing what we believe arise out of System Two. This is why, if a person believes x, even if you can successfully demonstrate that all the reasons they can give you for believing x are false, there is a good chance they will probably still believe x anyway. The belief and the reasons for the belief are two separate things.
It’s not that there is no connection between feelings/beliefs and reasons. It’s just that we take our own reasons for our feelings and beliefs far too seriously.
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